Rei in Reality
Everyone wants to test their skills, strength, and ability
to overpower or be better than an ordinary person. It is a common feeling in
any art while you are learning. However, a real-life practical application or
experience brings a different level of understanding, confidence, and
awareness. It becomes both a test and a challenge at the same time.
I’ll give a try to present these in sequence, starting with
my Yoshinkan Senshusei training. This particular experience did not happen
inside the dojo, but while simply facing an ordinary situation in daily life.
During Senshusei training in Japan, I needed to change my
visa status in order to continue my training. The process involved submitting
the required documents to the relevant authorities. Usually, a senior person
from the dojo would assist the student with this process and accompany them
when submitting the official documents.
I was honoured that it was Chida Sensei who personally took
me through this process. We were standing at the train station, waiting for the
arrival of the train.
I was standing beside Sensei, perhaps one or two feet behind
him. While waiting, noticed a person rushing through the station. As he passed
us, he deliberately brushed against Sensei, showing a clear sense of rudeness
and disrespect.
My immediate reaction was to step forward and respond. All the
training, instincts, and energy suddenly surfaced. ready to prove myself. This
was the moment to test.
But Chida Sensei simply gave me a quick, deep look. With a
subtle gesture of his fingers, he communicated one message: calm down.
There was nothing dramatic about that moment. It lasted only
a few seconds. Sensei’s response was incredibly simple. He smiled at the
stranger and gave a respectful nod, something closer to a bow, but not a full
bow.
Surprisingly, the person’s attitude completely changed. His
expression became blank, and he seemed unsure how to react. Whatever intention
or emotion he carried before that moment appeared to disappear. His next glance
towards us was with respect, and quietly walked away.
Now, where does this response come from?
Rei in Everyday:
In Japanese society, mastering Rei is viewed as a
sign of adulthood and humility. It is a way to acknowledge the value and
dignity of the person you are interacting with.
The concept is summarized by the phrase "Rei ni
hajimari, Rei ni owaru" meaning "it begins with a bow and ends
with a bow".
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